On the last blog post we talked about the depression stats. Oklahoma is in the tops in the nation. I wanted to clarify this thought. It may or may not be true, but it is an observation. I know that there is a large Native American population, and given some of their statistics it could have an effect on the over all statistics. I guess what I am trying to get at here, is the heart of the Bible belt is definitely Oklahoma. Over the years it has shifted to other places but certainly within Charismatic circles the hub and development of that form of belief was developed in Tulsa.
The latest revelation that has become mainstream is the idea of destiny, and finding our purpose and calling. While this is exciting and life-giving; could also be the source of disappointment and frustration for those who are not properly trained and processed. It is much easier to walk in the light of your revelation than to know you have this great destiny but never seem to get any closer to seeing it manifest. It could quite possibly be the source of the depression in Oklahoma especially. There are so many believers who are frustrated, disappointed, let down and discouraged, but on Sundays they put on the happy faces. Because for them faith is just keep going and believing and things will happen. Well I meet people all the time who life is taking its toll on them. Many have been in church for years but are no closer to the destiny and calling they were promised. I want to speak to the core of what I have found to be the source of most people’s frustration.
The concept is called responsibility assumptions.
Responsibility assumption is a doctrine in the personal growth field holding that each individual has substantial or total responsibility for the events and circumstances that befall them in their life. While there is little that is notable about the notion that each person has at least some role in shaping their experience, the doctrine of responsibility assumption posits that the individual’s mental contribution to his or her own experience is substantially greater than is normally thought. “I must have wanted this” is the type of catchphrase used by adherents of this doctrine when encountering situations, pleasant or unpleasant, to remind them that their own desires and choices led to the present outcome.
The term responsibility assumption thus has a specialized meaning beyond the general concept of taking responsibility for something, and is not to be confused with the general notion of making an assumption that a concept such as “responsibility” exists.
The main variable within various interpretations of the responsibility assumption doctrine is the degree to which the individual is considered the cause of his or her own experience, ranging from partial but substantial to total responsibility.
Now before you disagree with my thoughts here, lets talk about where this idea comes from. You may say of course I believe this, it is our responsibility for everything in our lives good or bad. If you follow that logic then you might as well be the one that thinks all of the good fortune in your life is all because of you and your power. On the other had you are just as misaligned if you think all of the misfortune in your could possibly be solely upon you. I certainly believe that you reap what you sow. You are effected by the choices you make in life. There are circumstances for decisions we make in our lives.
What I am talking about is the eternal plan of God for our lives. Of course if you decide to pay the price and go to school, you will reap a better career than most. If you are faithful in your work, you will reap the benefits. But when it comes to the eternal destiny that God has for our lives its much more complicated than that. We have a personal responsibility to flow with His leading. This kind of logic of personal responsibility assumptions comes from the founding fathers of Protestantism.
At the tail end of the reformation against the Roman Catholic church by Luther, and Calvin we then went a step farther in our process of authority and religion. What came of it was a common sense view of Scripture interpretation that encourages and individual to interpret the Bible without the help of anyone. Dr. William Angell, a contemporary Southern Baptist and professor of religion, seems to agree with the essence of this perspective.
*Baptists insist not only on the primary authority of the Bible but also on the right and duty of individual interpretation. That right, Baptists have generally held, springs from the fundamental principle that every person is of infinite worth to God.
What has happened is we have been subtly taught that everything spiritual in our lives will be our responsibility. I certainly believe that you should study and seek. But I have yielded to wise men for years that have help train and shape my thinking. I am like St. Paul when he says that he is the person he is only by the grace of God, but that he still labored more than everyone else. That is what I have desired to live out in my life. I know that anything good in my life is by the grace of God, but I’m still going to labor to seek to enter into His divine rest.
The reality of walking and breathing in God, is everything is already been done! You are here merely to manifest what has already been created for you. Do you have choices in the matter? Well you do but not like you think you do. The only way to process what I’m trying to say is for you to fully understand predestination, election and calling. Back to recovery from regret.
Obviously we will certainly regret the things we did not attempt more than the wrongs and failures we did try. If you are not there yet, then you just haven’t lived long enough. If this is the case then if you can identify your regrets and fulfill the things you didn’t then you will be resolved. What if you can not go back and redo the things you didn’t attempt in your past. Sometimes life moves on, situations change and it can become impossible to go back and attempt the thing wish you had. If you are in the latter group then you are going to have to ease off of the concept fo full responsibility assumptions. You don’t have to let go all of the way but you are going to have to let God be apart of your process.
First of all I want to tell you that God was not just introduced to you the day you got saved or enlightened. He knew you before you were formed, and He has been guiding you all of your life. We somehow in our theological mess have the idea that we were lost, and almost like He didn’t even know we existed or even was on His Spiritual radar. Well the truth is even when Adam and Eve (fell) or disobeyed, became enlightened to the carnal mind and ego, God the Father still showed up! He did not abandon them because of their disobedience. He drove them out because of the carnal mind. Those in the carnal mind and or ego state of being can not please Him, or inherit the Kingdom of God. So He drove them out of the Garden to burn out of them this ego. It is true you were lost, but He never was. He has been in control of everything since He said let there be light.
The only way you are going to recover from the regret in this realm is to somehow learn to see God in all of the decisions you have made; good or bad.